What actually is pain? Is it when you feel mentally weary? Or is it when you’re unable find the strength to socialize and put yourself out there? The definition of this word is quite ambiguous. You can see pain as a consequence of a traumatic life event or the disappointment you feel when you’re not appreciated.
But, what we fail to understand is that the remedy to cure pain often lies within ourselves. We tend to see pain as a negative, excruciating, and hurtful feeling, and try to avoid it as much as possible. The truth is, you can’t avoid what’s supposed to happen, both good and bad. So why view life experiences as an opportunity to grow and become a better, stronger version of yourself?
I’ve been there; I’ve failed, I’ve been in pain, but I chose to overcome it. I chose to come out scathed yet successful. Do you also have a painful past experience that you want to turn into a growth opportunity? Then you’ve come to the right place.
As a professional personal development coach, I’ve helped people find happiness and fulfillment in life through a positive outlook. Today, I’m sharing my tips on how you can use your pain as fuel for growth, betterment, and strength.
1. Don’t Run Away from Your Pain
Acceptance is the first step toward transforming your pain into happiness, peace, success, and contentment. Many people try to avoid thinking, talking, or even mentioning their painful life events, just because they don’t want to hit the replay button. This might seem like a good practice at the time, but with time, the angst and hurt bottles up inside you.
Accept that life’s meant to be a bumpy ride. If some days are bad, others will be good. While you might not like to relive the pain you once felt in life, but believe me, turning it into your strength will make you feel like a victorious fighter.
It will help you inspire others who are going through or once have been in a similar position. Allow yourself to walk through it. The more you accept your past, the easier it will be to let go of it.
2. Don’t Judge or Evaluate Yourself
Holding yourself accountable and evaluating yourself based on your past pain will help you grow emotionally and bring forth the power to move on freely. If you want to rise above, you have to be courageous and not let the past define your present.
3. Stay Honest to Yourself and Your Loved Ones
While your pain and hurt might feel like an endless abyss, there’s still light at the end of the tunnel. And always remember, there’s nothing glorious than the feeling of coming out stronger and defeating that which has kept you down for so long.
If you’ve experienced hurt, unfaithfulness, or intolerance from a family member, a partner, or a friend, don’t let the anger reflect on your behavior.
To become more content, try to saturate your actions with love. If you were made to feel insecure and useless, try to provide security to the ones you love. Moreover, always be straightforward and honest about your experiences.
I’m a Certified Life Coach, and I Can Help You
Balancing the ups and downs in your life brings freedom, joy, and blissful peace. It makes you feel confident, secure, strong, and in-control of your personal and professional life.
If you’re confused about choosing whether to let go of the pain or hold on, let me help you. I’ll tell you how to direct your pain toward success, how to learn from it and reveal your inner potential. I’m Kathy McKnight, a certified life and business coach, helping people gain a positive outlook on their pain in order to enjoy their life to the fullest.