If‌ ‌your‌ ‌world‌ ‌seems‌ ‌as‌ ‌if‌ ‌it‌’s‌ ‌falling‌ ‌apart‌ ‌around‌ ‌you,‌ ‌stop worrying because there is hope!‌ ‌That‌ ‌is‌ ‌just‌ ‌self-defeating,‌ ‌negative‌ ‌self‌ -talk, and the words you tell yourself matter. I used to beat myself up so badly over everything that wasn’t perfect. I judged myself horribly for years, was convinced I wasn’t good enough and felt worthless. However, I changed my thought pattern and identity to match a more positive, beautiful, self-loving belief system.


The goal is to rewrite your script, and anyone can do it. ‌Your‌ ‌true‌ ‌strength‌ ‌lies‌ ‌in‌ your‌ ‌self-esteem,‌ ‌your‌ ‌thinking, ‌your belief‌ ‌system‌s, and‌ ‌how‌ ‌you‌ ‌perceive‌ ‌the‌ ‌world‌ ‌around‌ ‌you.‌ ‌I‌ ‌should‌ ‌know; I‌ ‌almost‌ ‌allowed‌ ‌my‌ ‌negative self-talk‌ ‌to‌ control ‌my‌ ‌life, ‌my‌ ‌perspective‌, and‌ ‌most‌ ‌importantly, ‌‌my‌ ‌self-worth.


It‌ ‌isn’t‌ ‌easy‌ ‌to‌ ‌change‌ ‌the‌ ‌meaning‌ ‌of‌ ‌your‌ ‌beliefs‌ ‌or‌ ‌rewrite‌ ‌your‌ ‌script, ‌ ‌but‌ ‌it‌’s‌ ‌not‌ ‌impossible‌ ‌either. ‌‌I‌ ‌went‌ ‌from‌ ‌being‌ ‌a‌ ‌victim‌ ‌to‌ ‌a‌ ‌victor‌, and‌ ‌my‌ ‌mess‌ ‌became‌ ‌my‌ ‌message. ‌ ‌At‌ ‌this‌ ‌point, ‌I‌ ‌know‌ ‌you‌ ‌are‌ ‌acting‌ ‌as‌ ‌your‌ ‌own‌ ‌worst‌ ‌enemy.‌ ‌Your‌ ‌state‌ ‌of‌ ‌mind‌ ‌is‌ ‌making‌ ‌you‌ ‌hypersensitive‌ ‌not‌ ‌only‌ ‌to‌ ‌your‌ ‌environment but‌ ‌what‌ ‌you‌ ‌think‌ ‌your‌ ‌loved‌ ‌ones, ‌friends, ‌co-workers,‌ ‌etc.,‌ ‌are‌ ‌thinking‌ ‌about‌ ‌you. ‌ ‌Why‌ ‌should‌ ‌you‌ ‌settle‌ for‌ ‌a‌ ‌mediocre‌ ‌existence‌ ‌when‌ ‌you‌ ‌have‌ ‌the‌ ‌potential‌ ‌to‌ ‌pull‌ ‌yourself‌ ‌out‌ ‌of‌ ‌that‌ ‌self-destructive, ‌false‌ ‌state‌ ‌of‌ ‌mind. ‌

My‌ ‌name‌ ‌is‌ ‌Kathy‌ ‌McKnight, and I‌’m‌ ‌a‌ ‌peak‌ ‌performance‌ ‌strategist‌ ‌who‌’s‌ ‌been‌ ‌through‌ ‌what‌ ‌you‌‘re‌ ‌going‌ ‌

through. Rock‌ ‌bottom‌ ‌is‌ ‌the‌ ‌foundation‌ ‌on‌ ‌which‌ ‌I‌ ‌built‌ ‌my‌ ‌life‌, and ‌I‌ ‌can‌ ‌help‌ ‌you‌ ‌do‌ ‌that‌ ‌too.‌‌

Let‌ ‌me‌ ‌tell‌ ‌you‌ ‌a‌ ‌little‌ ‌bit‌ ‌about‌ ‌myself‌ ‌first‌ ‌and‌ ‌how‌ ‌I‌ ‌overcame‌ ‌my‌ ‌demons. ‌ ‌As‌ ‌an‌ ‌adolescent, ‌ ‌I‌ ‌became‌ ‌a social‌ ‌butterfly‌ ‌who‌ ‌loved‌ ‌to‌ ‌party‌ ‌with‌ ‌my‌ ‌friends. ‌ ‌I‌ ‌thought‌ ‌I‌ ‌was‌ ‌living‌ ‌a‌ ‌good‌ ‌life.‌ ‌After‌ ‌I‌ ‌graduated‌ ‌from‌ ‌the‌ University‌ ‌of‌ ‌Tampa, ‌ ‌I‌ ‌had‌ ‌a‌ ‌terrific‌ ‌job‌ ‌and‌ ‌great‌ ‌friends‌ ‌who‌ ‌really‌ ‌had‌ ‌no‌ ‌idea‌ ‌how‌ ‌lost, ‌‌alone, and‌ ‌sad‌ ‌I‌ ‌felt‌ ‌due‌ ‌to‌ ‌a ‌vicious,‌ ‌repetitive‌ ‌cycle‌ ‌of‌ ‌broken‌ ‌relationships, ‌one‌ ‌after‌ ‌the‌ ‌other.

Men‌ ‌turned‌ ‌out‌ ‌to‌ ‌be‌ ‌my‌ ‌downfall. ‌ ‌I‌ ‌dated‌ ‌the‌ ‌same‌ ‌guy‌ ‌for‌ ‌years‌ ‌and‌ ‌even‌ ‌married‌ ‌one.‌ ‌I‌ ‌should‌ ‌have‌ ‌been‌ ‌

the‌ ‌happiest‌ ‌person‌ ‌on‌ ‌the‌ ‌planet‌, ‌right? ‌‌Wrong! ‌‌My‌ ‌addiction‌ ‌made‌ ‌me‌ ‌indecisive,‌ far too ‌accepting‌ ‌of‌ ‌‌things I should have refused early on. It ‌lowered‌ ‌my‌ ‌self-esteem‌ ‌and‌ ‌had‌ ‌me‌ ‌confused‌ ‌as‌ ‌to‌ ‌how‌ ‌I‌ ‌was‌ ‌going‌ ‌against‌ ‌my‌ ‌better‌ ‌judgment‌ ‌year‌‌ after‌ ‌year.‌ ‌I‌ ‌had‌ ‌no‌ ‌idea‌ ‌how‌ ‌to‌ ‌stop‌ ‌the‌ destructive‌ ‌pattern‌ ‌I‌ ‌was‌ ‌living‌ ‌in.‌ ‌I‌ ‌always‌ ‌knew‌ ‌I‌ ‌was‌ ‌going‌ ‌to‌ ‌get‌ ‌to‌ ‌the‌ ‌other‌ ‌side‌ ‌by‌ ‌the‌ ‌grace‌ ‌of‌ God,‌ ‌but‌ ‌I‌ ‌was‌ ‌living‌ ‌a‌ ‌partying‌ ‌lifestyle‌ ‌without‌ ‌a‌ ‌clue‌ ‌that‌ ‌it‌ ‌was‌ ‌a‌ ‌huge‌ ‌problem. ‌I‌‌ knew‌ ‌that‌ ‌I‌ ‌would‌ ‌never‌ ‌settle‌ ‌for‌ ‌less‌ ‌than‌ ‌I‌ ‌deserved,‌ ‌even‌ ‌though‌ ‌I‌ ‌stayed‌ ‌in‌ ‌toxic,‌ ‌abusive‌ ‌relationships‌ ‌for‌ years‌ ‌at‌ ‌a‌ ‌time. ‌ ‌But‌ ‌figuring‌ ‌that‌ ‌out‌ ‌helped‌ ‌me‌ ‌step‌ ‌up,‌ ‌change‌, and‌ ‌beat‌ ‌the‌ addiction.

You‌ ‌Need‌ ‌to‌ ‌FLY‌ ‌(First‌ ‌Love‌ ‌Yourself)‌ ‌Before‌ ‌You‌ ‌Can‌ ‌Soar‌ ‌

I‌ ‌was‌ ‌hiding, ‌ ‌in‌ ‌denial‌ ‌of‌ ‌the‌ ‌truth‌ ‌rather‌ ‌than‌ ‌being‌ ‌fully‌ ‌accountable‌ ‌for‌ ‌my‌ ‌truth. ‌ ‌Addiction‌ ‌can‌ ‌take‌ ‌over‌ ‌

your‌ ‌mind, ‌ ‌making‌ ‌you‌ ‌see‌ ‌the‌ ‌world‌ ‌with‌ ‌a‌ ‌bitter‌ ‌set‌ ‌of‌ ‌lenses,‌ ‌a‌ ‌victim’s‌ ‌mindset, ‌‌full‌ ‌of‌ ‌resentment,‌ ‌anger‌ ‌

and‌ ‌fear‌.‌ ‌I‌ ‌was‌ ‌pushing‌ ‌my‌ ‌family‌ ‌and‌ ‌friends‌ away when they ‌could‌ ‌have‌ ‌been‌ ‌my‌ ‌support‌ ‌system.‌ ‌Humiliation,‌ ‌shame,‌ ‌guilt‌, ‌and‌ ‌the‌ ‌blame‌ ‌game‌ ‌will‌ ‌keep‌ ‌you‌ ‌isolated‌ ‌from‌ ‌those‌ ‌who‌ ‌love‌ ‌you‌ ‌the‌ ‌most. ‌But‌ ‌I‌ ‌was‌ ‌sick‌‌ and‌ ‌tired‌ ‌of‌ ‌being‌ ‌sick‌ ‌and‌ ‌tired.‌ ‌I‌ ‌made‌ ‌a‌ ‌decision‌ ‌to‌ ‌focus‌ ‌on‌ ‌my‌ ‌mind,‌ ‌body,‌ ‌and‌ ‌soul‌.‌ ‌I‌ ‌made‌ ‌sobriety and getting healthy inside and out‌ ‌my‌ ‌number‌ ‌one‌ ‌priority‌ ‌by‌ ‌loving‌ ‌myself‌ ‌and‌ ‌understanding‌ ‌that‌ ‌healing‌ ‌is‌ ‌a‌ ‌process, ‌a‌ ‌journey. I took things‌ ‌one‌ ‌day‌ ‌at‌ ‌a‌ ‌time.

I‌ ‌am‌ ‌happy‌ ‌to‌ ‌say‌ ‌that‌ ‌I‌ ‌have‌ ‌finally‌ ‌kicked‌ ‌my‌ ‌addiction‌ ‌to‌ ‌the‌ ‌curb‌ ‌‌by‌ ‌the‌ ‌grace‌ ‌of‌ ‌God. ‌I‌ ‌couldn’t‌ ‌have‌ ‌

done‌ ‌it‌ ‌alone. ‌‌I‌ ‌decided‌ ‌to‌ ‌work‌ ‌on‌ ‌myself, ‌get‌ ‌expert‌ ‌help‌ ‌from‌ ‌others‌ ‌who‌ ‌have‌ ‌done‌ ‌it‌ ‌too. ‌I‌ ‌became‌ ‌

stronger, ‌‌healthier, ‌happier‌ ‌through‌ ‌fitness, ‌nutrition, ‌‌coaches, ‌leaders, ‌‌mentors,‌ ‌and‌ ‌God. ‌‌Allow‌ ‌me‌ ‌to‌ help you. ‌Whether‌ ‌you‌ ‌are‌ ‌addicted‌ ‌to‌ ‌sex, ‌‌alcohol, ‌‌gambling‌, food, drama, anger, shopping, ‌or ‌anything‌ ‌else‌ ‌that‌ ‌is‌ ‌preventing‌ ‌you‌ ‌from‌ ‌living‌ ‌your‌ ‌best‌ ‌life‌ ‌now,‌ ‌you‌ ‌can‌ ‌recover, ‌bounce‌ ‌back‌ ‌higher‌ ‌than‌ ‌ever. You can beat your bad habits. ‌‌Live‌ ‌high‌ ‌on‌ ‌life‌ ‌and‌ ‌be‌ ‌free‌ ‌from‌ ‌anything‌ ‌that‌ ‌isn’t‌ ‌serving‌ ‌you‌ ‌or your family well. Commit to it one day at a time, and it will work. We‌ ‌have‌ ‌two‌ ‌wolves‌ ‌inside‌ ‌us‌ ‌–‌ ‌Fear‌ ‌and‌ ‌Faith. ‌Your‌ ‌recovery‌ ‌depends‌ ‌on‌ ‌who‌ ‌you‌ ‌‘feed’‌ ‌each‌ ‌day.‌ ‌If‌ ‌you‌ ‌allow‌ ‌fear‌ ‌to‌ ‌grow‌ ‌big‌ ‌and‌ ‌healthy, ‌‌it‌ ‌will‌ ‌overcome‌ ‌your‌ ‌faith.

‌‌I‌ ‌know‌ ‌exactly‌ ‌where‌ ‌you‌ ‌are‌ ‌at‌ ‌this‌ ‌point‌ ‌—‌ ‌you‌ ‌are‌ ‌trying‌ ‌to‌ ‌save‌ ‌what‌ ‌little‌ ‌dignity‌ ‌you‌ ‌think‌ ‌you‌ ‌have‌ ‌left‌ ‌by‌ ‌allowing‌ ‌your‌ ‌fears‌ ‌to‌ ‌coddle‌ ‌you. ‌That‌ ‌is‌ ‌the‌ ‌biggest‌ ‌mistake‌ ‌you‌ ‌can‌ make, ‌but‌ ‌it‌ ‌can‌ ‌be‌ ‌overcome. ‌ ‌By‌ ‌allowing‌ ‌faith‌ ‌to‌ ‌be‌ ‌your‌ ‌guide, ‌ ‌you‌ ‌can‌ ‌accept‌ ‌yourself‌ ‌and‌ ‌your‌ ‌life‌ ‌choices‌ ‌as‌ ‌you‌ ‌work‌ ‌to‌ ‌overcome‌ ‌challenges. ‌ ‌Self‌-‌acceptance‌ ‌is‌ ‌everything. ‌You‌ ‌are‌ ‌enough. ‌You‌ ‌are‌ ‌worthy.‌ ‌Thinking‌ ‌about‌ ‌change, deciding to change, admitting your mistakes ‌is‌ ‌the‌ ‌first‌ ‌step.‌ ‌Allow‌ ‌me‌ ‌to‌ ‌help‌ ‌you‌ ‌walk‌ ‌your‌ ‌talk‌ ‌with‌ ‌my‌ ‌FLY‌ ‌series, ‌ ‌book‌ ‌study‌ ‌coaching‌ ‌that‌ ‌can‌ ‌help‌ ‌you‌ ‌break‌ ‌through‌ ‌your‌ ‌limiting‌ ‌beliefs. ‌‌A‌ ‌winning‌ ‌viewpoint‌ ‌can‌ ‌help‌ ‌you‌ ‌see‌ ‌the‌ ‌world‌ ‌from‌ ‌a‌ ‌unique‌ ‌set‌ ‌of‌ ‌lenses‌ ‌for‌ ‌a‌ ‌strong‌ ‌and‌ ‌healthy‌ ‌outlook.

Stop‌ ‌holding‌ ‌onto‌ ‌your‌ ‌fears‌ ‌and‌ ‌FLY‌ ‌towards‌ ‌self‌-‌acceptance,‌ ‌self‌-‌love,‌ ‌and‌ ‌change.‌ ‌My‌ ‌book‌ ‌‌‘Stop‌ ‌Holding‌ ‌On‌ ‌To‌ ‌Your‌ ‌SHIfT’‌‌ ‌can‌ ‌help‌ ‌you‌ ‌make‌ ‌that‌ ‌shift‌ ‌and‌ ‌improve‌ ‌your‌ ‌life‌ ‌for‌ ‌the‌ ‌better.‌

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